Meghan Markle pens an emotional article in the New York Times, detailing the loss of her unborn child in July.
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Prince Harry and Meghan Markle welcomed their first child, baby boy Archie, in 2019 and were excitedly anticipating the birth of their second.
“I knew, as I clutched my firstborn child, that I was losing my second,” shared Markle. ” Losing a child means carrying an almost unbearable grief, experienced by many but talked about by few.”
In that moment, she realized something in her pregnancy was not right.
“It was a July morning that began as ordinarily as any other day: Make breakfast,” she continued. “Feed the dogs. Take vitamins. Find that missing sock. Pick up the rogue crayon that rolled under the table. Throw my hair in a ponytail before getting my son from his crib.”
Markle explains the sharp cramp that threw a wrench in what would have been a normal day.
“After changing his diaper, I felt a sharp cramp. I dropped to the floor with him in my arms, humming a lullaby to keep us both calm, the cheerful tune a stark contrast to my sense that something was not right,” said Markle. “I knew, as I clutched my firstborn child, that I was losing my second.”
A moment all too familiar with parents who have lost their children through miscarriage, Markle recounts the sentiments she and Prince Harry felt that day.
“Hours later, I lay in a hospital bed, holding my husband’s hand,” she says. “I felt the clamminess of his palm and kissed his knuckles, wet from both our tears. Staring at the cold white walls, my eyes glazed over. I tried to imagine how we’d heal. In the pain of our loss, my husband and I discovered that in a room of 100 women, 10 to 20 of them will have suffered from miscarriage. Yet despite the staggering commonality of this pain, the conversation remains taboo, riddled with (unwarranted) shame, and perpetuating a cycle of solitary mourning.”
She also adds what the journey toward healing looks like.
“Some have bravely shared their stories; they have opened the door, knowing that when one person speaks truth, it gives license for all of us to do the same,” continued Markle. “We have learned that when people ask how any of us are doing, and when they really listen to the answer, with an open heart and mind the load of grief often becomes lighter — for all of us. In being invited to share our pain, together we take the first steps toward healing.”
We send love and light to Prince Harry, Meghan Markle, and all families who’ve suffered miscarriages.